In my opinion, society has such an impact in how we conduct ourselves and our lives. As humans, we naturally try to conform and impress. There is no shame in admitting that we love to feel a sense of achievement and know that people are proud of what we are doing/who we are.
Social media has created this new kind of online society, giving us unrealistic pictures of perfect lives, and painting ideals of what our life should look like in our heads. This has led to so much pressure of creating a successful life, with the pressure mostly coming from ourselves. (By the way, I do actually love social media.)
I am definitely one of these success obsessed humans, and am slowly becoming to realise that it is such an unhealthy obsession. It came to a stage where I would constantly be comparing myself to others and feeling anxious that I wasn’t doing as well as I thought I should be doing at this stage in my life. At the end of the day, everyone is their own person, why should we be comparing ourselves?! We are never going to be exactly like that girl with the HR job, the guy with the Accounting job, or the girl who goes on picture perfect holidays on an average of every 2 months. You are YOU, NOT them! Everybody’s situation is different, and you don’t know what you have in your life that they might lust for.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t be concerned about your career, or dream of going on that 6 week trip around Australia, it is amazing to be determined and motivated. What I am saying is, if you aren’t there yet, or you aren’t sure what you want to do/where you want to be, it is okay! Stressing about your life not being ‘together’ certainly isn’t going to make a positive difference, it just makes things worse. Take the time to appreciate the little things in life and realise how amazing life really is. Everyone is incredible, and in my opinion, success is not just about working 9-5 Monday-Friday in a competitive job role. (Of course, if you have that congrats!) If you’ve got a roof over your head, you eat everyday, and have people around you who care, you are definitely already on to a winner!
Of course, not all this pressure comes from ourselves. I do believe that more often than not, people want to know and ask about your job/career/education, and this can also make us feel like we are lagging behind or not good enough. Just remember that, whatever your answer to this question, does not define who you are.
You’re probably doing life so much better than you think you are, we are all in this together pretending like we know what we are doing…