In my opinion, society has such an impact in how we conduct ourselves and our lives. As humans, we naturally try to conform and impress. There is no shame in admitting that we love to feel a sense of achievement and know that people are proud of what we are doing/who we are.

Social media has created this new kind of online society, giving us unrealistic pictures of perfect lives, and painting ideals of what our life should look like in our heads. This has led to so much pressure of creating a successful life, with the pressure mostly coming from ourselves. (By the way, I do actually love social media.)


I am definitely one of these success obsessed humans, and am slowly becoming to realise that it is such an unhealthy obsession. It came to a stage where I would constantly be comparing myself to others and feeling anxious that I wasn’t doing as well as I thought I should be doing at this stage in my life. At the end of the day, everyone is their own person, why should we be comparing ourselves?! We are never going to be exactly like that girl with the HR job, the guy with the Accounting job, or the girl who goes on picture perfect holidays on an average of every 2 months. You are YOU, NOT them! Everybody’s situation is different, and you don’t know what you have in your life that they might lust for.


I’m not saying you shouldn’t be concerned about your career, or dream of going on that 6 week trip around Australia, it is amazing to be determined and motivated. What I am saying is, if you aren’t there yet, or you aren’t sure what you want to do/where you want to be, it is okay! Stressing about your life not being ‘together’ certainly isn’t going to make a positive difference, it just makes things worse. Take the time to appreciate the little things in life and realise how amazing life really is. Everyone is incredible, and in my opinion, success is not just about working 9-5 Monday-Friday in a competitive job role. (Of course, if you have that congrats!) If you’ve got a roof over your head, you eat everyday, and have people around you who care, you are definitely already on to a winner!


Of course, not all this pressure comes from ourselves. I do believe that more often than not, people want to know and ask about your job/career/education, and this can also make us feel like we are lagging behind or not good enough. Just remember that, whatever your answer to this question, does not define who you are.


You’re probably doing life so much better than you think you are, we are all in this together pretending like we know what we are doing…


Frances xxx


  1. lexilife
    6 October 2016 at 12:43 pm

    This was so comforting to read!! I feel like I needed this today, great job hun xx

  2. Jenny
    8 October 2016 at 3:56 pm

    I totally agree with you – we really need to stop comparing ourselves to others all the time!

  3. [email protected]
    8 October 2016 at 6:50 pm

    Reading this makes me so proud of you France’s and it’s also made me feel right good about myself ,love you xx

    • franceshemmant
      8 October 2016 at 6:52 pm

      Aww that makes me so happy!! You’re wonderful, love you so much more xxx

      • Mary Rick
        8 October 2016 at 9:03 pm

        Ah don’t think that’s possible sweetheart keep being you. I’m going to use your blog in my psychology lesson this week on social learning if that’s ok xxx?????

        • franceshemmant
          8 October 2016 at 9:17 pm

          Of course!! That’s amazing, thank you so so much xxx

  4. Mary Rick
    8 October 2016 at 8:54 pm

    Wow always knew you would grow into an amazing young lady and I was definitely right. You my lovely girl have so much to give and share and your blog will be so helpful to so many who are struggling with their lives and self-image and confidence. Love you very much and very proud of you. Love Auntie Mary xxxx ?????

    • franceshemmant
      8 October 2016 at 8:57 pm

      Thank you so much Auntie Mary!! Love you loads too xxxxx

  5. Hayley Colleen ♡ (@PRHayley)
    25 October 2016 at 8:18 am

    I really needed this today! Loved this part “Stressing about your life not being ‘together’ certainly isn’t going to make a positive difference, it just makes things worse”! So true, and the grass isn’t always greener on the other side either. Loved reading this xxx

    • franceshemmant
      25 October 2016 at 9:55 am

      Thank you lovely!! Most definitely, just feel like so few people are truly happy these days because we always feel like there’s something more, but we should just be grateful for what we have and are doing!! Glad you enjoyed it xxx

  6. TipsterPH
    18 November 2016 at 4:00 pm

    Everything you said is true!


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